Transformation is a heavy word. It conjures up ideas of BIG things, BIG changes. It’s what I’ve been talking about in my yoga classes over the past month. I think we often get caught up in focusing on these big lofty goals that we think will be the transformation we’ve been waiting for. You know, THE ONE BIG THING THAT WILL CHANGE EVERYTHING.

Think about your goals right now. If I get X job I’ll be happier. If I look like X I’ll be more willing to go try something new. If I could just find someone that loves me I’ll be able to do X. Whatever it is, we often end up sitting around waiting for it to miraculously happen. And then when it doesn’t we get stagnant and disappointed and we let the perceived failure stop us from progressing.

But here’s the thing. Change is inevitable. The seasons change, we grow older, etc. But transformation takes time and effort. You can’t just set these lofty goals and expect them to happen. The transformation is about the process, the work, the pauses, the starts and fits. Those lofty goals rarely actually serve us. They tend to be based on judgements and assumptions about what we think we need. It’s not that you can’t or shouldn’t set goals. Of course you can and should. But almost always those goals change and evolve. So it’s more about learning to be flexible with these changes and allowing the space you need to move and grow with them. Because in the space between the goals, really allowing  the space to exist, is where we find the transformation. So don’t just sit around waiting for the one big thing you think needs to happen. Put in the work on creating space for what needs to happen.


Modification Over Moderation

I’ve been working on a few ideas about #inmodification vs #inmoderation in my head. I really think it’s one key to why diet programs/theories work for some but also fail for others, why we don’t all (maybe even most of us don’t) fit into the same box and why we need to be our own private investigator into what works best for us.

Changing habits takes hard work. Some people might look at me and think “wow she eats so healthy, she’s got more will power than me.” However, the truth is if my body didn’t start fighting against itself I don’t know if I would have taken such a giant leap. I’ve always been interested in health and wellness but like most people, investing a bunch of time into discovering what actually works for my body may not have been a priority.

I’ve heard people say that certain WOE (ways of eating) aren’t sustainable. But I actually disagree. It is sustainable if 1. the quality of your life depends on it and 2. if other people didn’t assume it was so weird. Because really the Standard American Diet (SAD) is what’s not sustainable for most people’s body longer term. And listen there are all shades of gray in there too. And here’s when we get to this notion of everything in moderation. It’s really a dated concept similar to “a calorie in = a calorie out.”

I can’t eat certain foods anymore because if I do it aggravates my autoimmune disease. Is the science specifically clear on why say, gluten does this for ~80% of people like me? Not exactly (theories on protein mimics, gut health, inflammation, etc. are being explored). But until then here’s what I DO know. If I eat just a little bit my stomach bloats – BAD. It hurts. If I start to eat it consistently, I break out in hives. Nightshades are another culprit. Same bloated reaction. Occasionally I eat nightshades, and I’m consistently miserable for the next few days. Corn is another. It mimics the protein in gluten and therefore probably causes a similar reaction in me. What’s my point? I can’t tolerate these seemingly healthy foods even in moderation. I actually had to make modifications to my diet to feel the healthiest version of me that I can.

And it’s not just for us lucky ones with autoimmune issues. I believe that as we age and our hormones shift so do our requirements for nutrition. It’s not about metabolism as much as it is about hormones. So maybe the foods that we consumed in bountiful amounts before will cause inflammation (bloat) now. This inflammation in turn makes us feel not so great, not as vibrant or strong or healthy as we deserve to feel. I know when I feel extra bloated, I also feel less patient, less focused and more tired. And of course I do because everything in your body is interconnected. So maybe if we can start to accept that our brains, guts, and all the systems in our body actually support and communicate with each other we can start to appreciate that what we eat matters.

And this is why I find so many people struggling with set products and diet plans, they actually need support figuring out what modifications are needed rather than just trying to fit into a set plan. The diet plans out there might be able to support your healthy lifestyle (if that’s what you’re looking for) but if you don’t also make the individualized modifications first you’ll stall or never even start to see improvements.

The future of health is much more individualized. But you don’t need to wait for that. If you’re not feeling well you can play detective yourself. You can work to remove some of the major inflammation culprits for your WOE for a solid 30 days, observe how you feel throughout and at the end. After at least 30 days add each food group back in and see if you still feel good or if you start to increase the inflammation again. If you do, that might be a trigger food for you. Do note, I’ve worked with some clients that needed more than 30 days at times 60+.

AND NONE OF THIS IS EASY! And you’ll never be perfect at it. BUT the closer I stick with what works for my body the BETTER I feel. And the more CONSISTENT I feel. And really that’s what makes it all worth it.

Bottom line, if we spend less time comparing ourselves to others success or failures, let go of the judgement or feelings of guilt and turn inwards to pay attention to our own body and mind we’ll learn much more about what we actually need.

#modificationovermoderation #bioindividuality #nutrientdense #youdeservehealth


I bet most of us can relate to the feeling that we think we deserve some sort of treat for accomplishing something. After all, marketing tells us this all day every day. THEY say we deserve certain luxuries, adventures and foods. Unfortunately, if we’re being honest, none of these things actually bring us what they promise, long term happiness, health or love. In fact we often feel disappointed in our decisions. And instead of the occasional treat after a big event we are rewarding ourselves for regular daily tasks like waking up in the morning. And, I get that for some people that is a big deal but for most of us it’s not.

I’m not against treating yourself occasionally but what I want to do is change the treat or rather change the conversation to deserving health. YOU DESERVE HEALTH. YOU DESERVE TO FEEL HEALTHY AND STRONG. Most of the things we are told we deserve don’t contribute to us feeling healthy and strong. Changing this mindset is one of the most difficult obstacles I see with clients. They are super reluctant to give  up their sugary treats or after work cocktails. And while there might be a place for these things sometimes, most of them don’t stop at one and that’s when we get into trouble. That’s what can turn our bodies into inflammation creating machines. What I try to explain to them (and remember myself) is that however weak you feel and tempting your treat may seem at the end of the day you always feel better that you didn’t consume it the next morning. You never regret saying no thanks. You always feel stronger the next day in both body and mind.

Before your next tough day make a list of things you can treat yourself with and ask the question will these things make me feel healthy and strong? Do they contribute to my overall health? This way when you do have a rough day you already have a pre-approved list of healthy treats to pick from. #nutrientdenseliving

Excerpts from my (slow) forthcoming book..

I was born in the mid 1970’s. I was the youngest of three at that point. My parents divorced early on and both worked full time jobs. Life was busy for them and dinner was usually whatever was easiest. At my mom’s house, we each had a night to cook. I think my specialty was pork chops with zesty Italian dressing. We probably ate tater tots and fish sticks weekly and macaroni and cheese with Velveeta on a regular basis until it was diet time and then there was a lot of orange roughy. At my dad’s house I remember things like Spaghetti O’s, frozen cupcakes – the variety pack, spinach soufflé. There were trips to Burger King and Pizza Hut for special occasions or when our parents were just too tired. This was the norm then. Fast food whether from a chain restaurant or frozen was all the rage. It simply made life easier. Iceberg lettuce salads with a wedge of tomato compensated as your vegetable.

They didn’t know. No one knew. Not until, well really the past decade or so did people start questioning the health of our food. That’s right, our food can be healthy and unhealthy. And in turn it can make us healthy or unhealthy. Some of it’s obvious. Whether we want to admit it or not, we know that Hostess Cakes are probably not good for us. But some food masquerades as healthy, full of vitamins, etc. You know the ones, the boxed cereals that claim they have all essential vitamins and nutrients your body needs. And even others seem like they could be the right choice but because they are pre-packaged and processed they are likely to contain additives and fillers to keep it (fake) fresh.

What has driven me to write this book is twofold. No fault of anyone, probably defective genes plus decades of poor nutritional choices, I found myself 40 pounds heavier and exhausted in my early thirties. I had never struggled with my weight like this. It felt like it happened overnight but in reality, it crept up on me over a few years. After several doctor visits complaining about weight gain and exhaustion with no clear answers other than I should exercise more, eat less and get more sleep, I was “lucky” enough to end back up in the doctor’s office with chest pains. Long story short, I was finally diagnosed with hypothyroidism. But that was only the start of another even longer chapter – it took years to find the right doctors to get me on track. I suffered through hives for 15 months, miscarriages, exhaustion, fluctuating weight and that was all after I was diagnosed.

The second driver is my own kids. I feel like we know so much more now than we did. I want both my daughter and son to grow up with healthy eating habits, with an appreciation for whole foods and a recognition of how food can make you both healthy and sick based on your choices.

I know this knowledge, while more available, is still a huge luxury. And I hate it. I think it’s a crime that we are being fed junk both literally and figuratively when it comes to what is healthy. The goal of this book is to help you better understand why it’s important to choose whole, nutrient dense foods over processed junk, tips on how it’s easier than you think and recipes that toddlers will love and that you can feel good about.

One more thing, I promise I’m not one of those moms that has it all together, not even close. I fly by the seat of my pants most days. I never leave the house in a presentable fashion. My hair is typically sticking up in the back, my socks rarely match and I’m usually covered in whatever meal I served, the day before. So if I can do this stuff you can too. And, while I want you to feel a little upset about some of the information in this book, I also want it to empower you to start making small changes, build the confidence that you can do it and grow from there.

No, My Kids Are Not Perfect Eaters (Posted on July 29, 2014)

No, My Kids Are Not Perfect Eaters

Posted on July 29, 2014

I often share what my kids are eating to provide examples of nutrient dense food that toddlers will eat but I think it’s important to mention, often, that my kids are not perfect eaters! I’ve spent many meals picking out vegetables from their pasta even though they would willingly eat said vegetables next to the pasta just not in the pasta. I’ve thrown in the towel and let my daughter go on a fruit only binge. There’s even been ice cream before dinner and therefore really no dinner. And really, if plain toast is what they want, fine. The thing of it is, I keep trying. It’s exhausting and frustrating but I’ve decided for many reasons that it’s important. The good part is, more often than not they come around and that’s why I keep trying. I know that if I totally quit it would be much more difficult later on to impact their choices. I don’t do “fancy”. I’ve said it before, I hate to bake because I simply don’t have the time or patience to follow directions. So I make easy meals that are filled with mostly whole foods. And, I try to lead by example. Now that they are getting older, I try to have them eat smaller versions of what we are eating; not always of course but often. So please don’t worry, my kids are not perfect eaters. They are good eaters but only because of a little luck and a lot of perseverance.

Fat Is Essential (Posted on July 10, 2014)

Fat Is Essential

Posted on July 10, 2014

Question from a follower:

HI 🙂 I have a question for you. I’d ask on your personal page but I thought your response would be useful to your followers too. I know recently we’ve heard a lot about not fearing saturated fats, etc. and Derek and I are on the bandwagon of rejecting processed stuff and eating full-fat dairy, nuts, lots of meat, veggies, etc. But why is it that we can eat all this fat and lose weight? What is it about sugar that makes your gain weight as opposed to fat? And why were we taught to think otherwise? (I say this because despite eating LOTS of fat these last couple of months, we’ve both lost weight!) Sorry for the rambling question. 🙂

First, it’s important to remember is that our understanding of all of this is still unfolding so while I feel more confident that the “fat is bad” bubble is bursting, I think there’s more to understand. At least we are starting to appreciate that everyone is unique and what might work for you may not be exactly what works for your husband. Maybe he does better on dairy than you or vice versa.

Ironically, lots of this stuff is what I’m including in my book and while I’d say “wait to see it in print”…that’s not very helpful to you or anyone starting out on this new and somewhat scary path. It’s scary because it’s going against the grain. While it’s becoming more commonplace (in some ways), it’s following a path that is the exact opposite of what we were raised on. We were clearly told over and over that FAT is Bad, that low-fat was the only way and that processed foods made your life easier. Period.

I know there are conspiracy theories all over the place about this stuff. But over the past year you can find articles even in the mainstream media. I’m not suggesting that mainstream media makes something true, far from it, but I’m saying that the research and the reporting are coming out from under the rocks. This is a good thing. The more you learn, we all learn, the more you may feel pissed off in away. We were all led astray. Sometimes out of wanting to do good and sometimes out of pure politics.

Here’s an example of how we ended up here. In Denise Minger’s book Death By Food Pyramid, she eloquently tells the story of how the food pyramid actually came to life back in the 1970’s.  Boy is it a vision of pure politics.  Very little was actually in the interest of the public.  As the story goes, a woman named, Louise Light was tapped to become the Director of Dietary Guidance and Nutrition Education Research.  As Minger discusses, Light’s recommendations ended up being starkly different from what actually came to fruition!  For example, Light promoted five to nine servings of fruits and vegetables, good sources of protein found in meat, fish, nuts and beans.  She even suggested having four tablespoons of cold-pressed oils daily on top of the fat that was naturally occurring in foods.  Plus she recommended to keep sugar low (less than 10% of your total daily calories) and she banned white-flour products and greatly limited grains. Take a minute to let that sink in and think about what you eat on a regular basis.  Okay, ready?  I’ll go on. Due to intense lobbying efforts, what came back was almost the exact opposite. The recommended fats were gone (the beginning of fat is bad), the amount of grains was increased fourfold, initially the fruits and vegetables were cut to only 2-3 servings and the restraints on sugar went from a low recommended amount to a vague  “moderate consumption” recommendation.  What I want you to understand is that these recommendations are not based on what is actually healthy for us but based on industry lobbying efforts. So while many of us believe, and rightfully so, that we are eating well, the basis of what’s healthy is manufactured by interests groups rather than science and research.

So why “fat = bad” in the first place? Back in the fifties a studied was completed by Dr. Ancel Keys. Basically he concluded that people who ate diets higher in fats, especially saturated fats were more likely to die of a heart attack but he relied on correlation not causation. It was known, even back then, that his evidence was weak but the country wanted to have an answer to an increase in heart disease. In a recent WSJ article, Nina Teicholz  writes:

“But there was no turning back: Too much institutional energy and research money had already been spent trying to prove Dr. Keys’s hypothesis. A bias in its favor had grown so strong that the idea just started to seem like common sense. As Harvard nutrition professor Mark Hegsted said in 1977, after successfully persuading the U.S. Senate to recommend Dr. Keys’s diet for the entire nation, the question wasn’t whether Americans should change their diets, but why not? Important benefits could be expected, he argued. And the risks? “None can be identified,” he said.”

However what we are faced with now is the result of decades of eliminating fat and replacing it with sugar and additives to make it taste good. Let’s take a minute to appreciate that fat tastes good. When you eliminate it, you need to replace it with something else to make it taste good…sugar. And over-processed sugar at that.

What we saw was the elimination of nutrient dense fats that our body needs to think, move, and sleep properly with something that is churned and burned so quickly that our body needs to replenish more often (in a bad way).  In addition, sugar has the potential to create the same cravings that we see when drug users experience times of withdrawal.

On the surface, natural sugar is okay if it is in moderation (not in the high amounts that the FDA says is okay). Best is to consume sugar found in fruits and vegetables that also contain stuff like fiber, which helps slow down the metabolism of the sugar so that your body uses the whole fruit more efficiently. But again sugar burns quickly leaving you feeling unsatisfied and leading to over-eating, weight gain and health problems.

Why is fat good?  Fat helps absorb vitamins A, D, E, and K (which between them affect every system in your body). Fat is essential for cell construction, nerve function, digestion, and for the formation of the hormones that regulate everything from metabolism to circulation. Beyond being essential for your mind and body, fat takes longer to break down, thus leaving you feeling satisfied longer. Not all fat is created equal though and quantity still matters. We need to re-balance the Omega 3 and Omega 6 ratio.  Right now, we eat drastically more Omega 6 fats than necessary which can lead to weight gain. And while Omega 6 is essential, it’s not healthy in the load we are consuming.  The quality of meat is key here.  Grass-fed organic meat and wild caught fish contains higher levels of omega-3 which is anti-inflammatory and help to balance the ratio between Omega 3/6. Often, when people are eating the “right” things, meats, fish, veggies, fruits but not losing weight, we can examine the types of fat they are consuming and find that they are eating too much omega 6 producers (nuts, seeds, chicken). By lowering their consumption (not necessarily eliminating) of these fats and rebalancing them with Omega 3, weight loss revs up again. And remember, we’re all different so the exact number of grams of fat vs. protein vs carbs will look different for you than me. But that’s another post.

But YOU ALSO HAVE TO EAT YOUR VEGGIES and A LOT of them. (Yes I’m shouting. Not at you, at all of us, even me). If you don’t get the majority of your nutrients from a wide variety of vegetables you’re not going to help yourself in the long run. And, while I sincerely believe that if you eat a whole foods diet, avoiding what you need to based on your personal health history, you do NOT need to count calories, if you find yourself not losing weight or gaining you need to readjust your portions and identify any foods that may be causing inflammation (bloat). For example, right now and maybe forever, gluten, legumes, and grains of any sort create inflammation for me. In fact I consumed various forms of these things over the past few weeks and put on 10 lbs. No joke. It’s all inflammation. So now I’m in the process of rebalancing my body. I’ve removed them all, I’m drinking a ton of water, trying to manage my stress (way down now that we’ve moved) and get back to a good sleep schedule (with two toddlers).

I know this was long and I’ve included some links to articles below if you’re interested. If something wasn’t clear, please don’t hesitate to post a question!

Be well!